This was in my email this morning. One way of looking at things, I suppose.
In America, 50% of homeowners have firearms. That means 50% of homeowners have the capability to kill you if you knock on their door late at night. That doesn't mean they're going to. But if they want to, that's absolutely within their capability.
If America really wanted to declare war on Afghanistan, the place would be a radioactive glass parking lot. That doesn't mean we're going to nuke-and-pave the Silk Road.
We haven't firebombed Kabul (we did it to Dresden and Tokyo in WW2), we haven't carpetbombed areas inhabited by civilians (we did it during Vietnam), we haven't turned entire cities into ash (we did it to Japan in WW2), we haven't used chemical weapons on the Taliban (as was widespread all over in WW1), we haven't sprayed carcinogenics over civilian population centers (Vietnam), we haven't fought the decisive battle of the war a week after the peace treaty was signed (War of 1812).
If you think that what we're doing to Afghanistan right now is "waging war on the people of Afghanistan", you need to read a few history books. What you're seeing in Afghanistan is about as gentle a war as the United States has ever fought.